Four Factors That Make Today’s Children, Tomorrow’s Men
It is also true that this exposure the child gets in his or her early age develops his or her personality in future. Although, genetics has its own part in forming a child’s temperament and personality but studies suggest that learning and experiences from people and situations around also plays a crucial role in a child’s development.
What Neuroscience has already confirmed about a Child’s Mental Development:
- The first five years for a child leaves a lifelong impact. Evidence shows that early experiences influence brain development, and can have a long-term effect on the well being.
- Children are born to learn. They learn through being engaged and doing.
- Children learn by watching and copying.
- Good nutrition, health, and exercise are critical for a child’s development.
Prominent influences in early childhood:
Children’s brains are almost 90% developed by the time they are 3-years old. During these years, they spend most of their time with their parents at home. Hence, parenting plays a crucial role in shaping a child’s overall development. A father’s contribution is important but a mother’s role is the most significant and she is the primary influence in a child’s life.
A survey found that parenting practices are strong predictors of a child’s emotional, social, cognitive and behavioral outcomes. It is observed that a positive relationship, consistent parenting, adequate supervision and involvement of parents have a positive impact on a child’s development whereas separation from mothers, lack of positive relationship, parenting conflicts, mother’s psychological illness leads to behavioral problems in children.
Siblings provide an important context for the development of a child. During early childhood, older siblings mostly act as caretakers, in the absence of their mothers. While playing siblings give opportunities to their younger ones to use their cognitive skills in convincing others their point of view, to manage disagreement in constructive ways and help them to learn to regulate both positive and negative emotions in socially acceptable ways.
But again sibling conflicts are very normal and if they are not properly resolved then it may lead to aggression, abusive nature, and violence in young minds. Researchers suggest that conflicts between siblings during their childhood is also associated with poorer adjustment later in life. For instance, such conflicts can result in violent tendencies in their adult life.
Grandparents also play an important role in a child’s development. Grandparents are historians, mentors, story-tellers, role models and friends. A strong and positive relationship between grandparents and grandchild in early childhood plays a vital role during later phases of life. This strong bond becomes very crucial during the early-adolescence of the child when most often disagreements arise between the parents and the child.
Preschool / kindergarten
Children benefit a lot from early education programs. Normally children start going to preschool at the age of 3 when children learn things at a very fast rate. Research shows that kindergarten programs can positively influence a child’s learning and development. It helps in enhancing child’s positive behavior, constructive thought process, problem-solving skills, language skills ,socialization and learning capacity. Even music and dance programs in preschool help the brain to organize thoughts and behaviors. Simple activities such as clapping to music or jumping in time to a beat, stimulates brain function.
It is our responsibility to provide children a safe, loving and secure environment. It has positive influences and helps in their development in a normal and healthy manner compared to that of a traumatized child, according to the National Scientific Council on the Developing Child.
Kayo Laba ( Fearless Child )
As a parent, many of us feel happy when we see billboards describing new ‘International’ schools springing up or newspapers displaying the opening of high end schools, in the vicinity of our homes. We find it comforting to learn of these schools that use specialized, modernized and smarter tools of learning for preparing our children to face the competitive world outside.
But on a different note, do these modern teaching methods or better mechanized ways of teaching really enhance the inherent value structure of a child? Do they make him a better person? Do they teach him patience and honesty? Do they eliminate his fears? Do they prepare him to face failure? There is little that our modernized education systems can do today in the area of child psychology and moral values. Similarly it is difficult for the ‘Modern’ or ‘New Age Busy Parents’ to assimilate that children need values as their foundation to support the burden of a learning of a lifetime. This foundation is laid primarily by parents and then by teachers. This foundation is about imbibing the right attributes in our children, making them fearless, along with the knowledge of understanding their responsibilities. This strong foundation will aid them in moving through the rough patches of life in a smoother way.
It is easy to lay down rules for a child and easier to tell him simply not to do morally wrong things. For example, it is simpler to tell him not to lie, to be giving, to learn sharing. But have we taught him HOW to do those things? Have we explained the answers to his questions? Do we give space for his incessant questions?
It is worthy of a mention that a child begins to learn from the womb of his mother. He does not just learn and copy your strengths but even your fears. Every child is new to his growing environment and is fearful to change. Adults can handle this fear of change in a better way as they are ‘hardened’ and equipped with experience and knowledge. But a child needs much more than just a push to getting acclimatized to the newness of living and learning. The values taught to him through experiential learning and performance will help him in facing the challenges of life ahead. It is thus very imperative that as parents we give our children the right environment to learn and grow.
With this motivation, Kayo Mind Engineering has books catering to children’s development and also conducts the program ‘Kayo Laba’ for children above 13 years of age. The program focuses on cultivating the fearlessness into them along with opening them to other valuable wisdom of recognizing vices and virtues and easier ways to follow them. It teaches them to learn from failure and develop self confidence. In character building and lets them experiment with the knowledge given to them during the program. Along with the core values, they are taught profound memory training skills and study techniques, which aim at not just enhancing their learning skills through their schooling years but even ahead in life.
Intelligent and emotionally stable children can conquer their fears and achieve their ambitions much easily. A stressed child cannot distinguish failure and success, and fails to recognize opportunities, leading to a lifetime of stress which affects not just himself but even the people around him. An empowered child knows to turn every failure into a stepping stone for success.